Excluding your partner’s perspective and insisting on your own, no matter how you put it, implies that being right is more important to you than how your partner feels and more important than the well-being of your relationship.

If the parent represses the girl’s anger not just once but over and over again, a deeper injury occurs: the girl will eventually dismantle her anger response. Ultimately, it’s safer for her to cut off a part of her being than to battle the person on whom her life depends.

How Do You Make It Hard for Your Partner to Give You What You Want?

Protection involves caring about her emotions more than the content of what she says. You can disagree with the content, as long as you value her.

Psychotherapy isn’t a twentieth-century artifice imposed on nature, but the reinstatement of a natural healing process.

Psychotherapy isn't a twentieth-century artifice imposed on nature, but the reinstatement of a natural healing process.

If the parent represses the girl's anger not just once but over and over again, a deeper injury occurs: the girl will eventually dismantle her anger response. Ultimately, it's safer for her to cut off a part of her being than to battle the person on whom her life depends.